1.Wait for a better
time. There is never a good time to do anything especially if that’s something
you have been putting off for a while. There is never a good time to start
exercising or learning a new language… You make the time for these things if
they are important to you - make them important enough for the good time to be
now.
2.Hate people. It’s
such a negative emotion and it really doesn’t lead anywhere. In most cases,
hating someone directly affects you and you alone, making your mood and your
day that much worse. By talking behind someone’s back and spreading negative
energy you’ll just push people you actually care about away. Let go of it and
make room for good and positive things.
3.Constantly look
back. What has happened in the past is now in the past – you have learned,
hopefully, from your mistakes and it’s time to move on. Until you can let go of
the past you cannot live in the present, plan for the future and grow as a
person. After all, your life from before doesn’t define who you are today, your
present actions do.
4.Think about people
who make no difference in your life. Whether they are people from your past or
your present if they don’t affect you directly why waste your precious time on
them? This also applies to spreading and listening to rumors, reading celebrity
columns and checking people’s statuses online. You only have one lifetime why
should you give people you don’t really care about any of it?
5.Whine about life,
the Universe and everything. Yes, there are days that it’s just impossible to
smile and take things as they come but what does whining achieve, exactly? What
is the point of complaining about the weather, politics or prices – what would
that change? Unless you have a clear plan on what to do and how to make things
better why spread the misery and the negative vibes? If you see a problem - do
something, do anything! The light doesn’t work in your block of flats - fix it
or find someone who will. Things that are not under your control and you cannot
in any way influence them – learn to live with them and accept them as they
are.
6.Play social games. No
one really cares about your clothes or your level of intelligence, not really.
It’s way better to just be authentic and show people who you really are, with
all your flaws and true character rather than waste energy on superficial
interactions - they don’t lead to anything but superficial relationships. Be
yourself and be real, let others love you and accept you the way you are.
Genuine relationships will make you happier, and you'll only form these
relationships once you stop trying to impress everyone you meet and start being
yourself.
7.Spend money on
things you don’t need. We often mistake the “I want” for “I need” when buying
stuff just because it seems cool to own it. Things don’t make you happy for
very long - the moment you get it you experience joy but shortly after that joy
is gone and the newly acquired item joins the rest in your house. Think very
carefully whether you absolutely in need of something or you just want to own
it. Invest in experiences instead –
experiences that will stay with you in your memory for the rest of your life.
8.Compare yourself to
others. Very often we look around and we see people who are doing a lot better
than we are and we don’t really notice those who are doing a lot worse. At
times we look around and all we can see is everyone else having it easier and
having it better and we feel bad about our own life. The fact is, it’s not easy
for anyone and everyone has their own problems. What you see on the outside is
what others let you see, always. Someone else is looking at you and thinking
just about the same thing: “you are the lucky one” and they have their own
reasons to say that. By thinking that having someone else’s life or someone
else’s problems will make you happier than you make yourself in the now you rob
yourself of the chance to take joy in what you have for yourself already. We
can be happy with very little and immensely unhappy with having it all –
sometimes, it’s just a matter of perspective.
9.Take no chances.
Sometimes we wait for a sure thing to come along for us to follow and then,
when it never comes, we wonder why nothing wonderful and exciting ever happens
to us. It’s true not just in regard of opportunities but also people. Sometimes
people also need to be given a chance to prove you wrong. We often overthink,
overanalyze and create possible scenarios in our head – then come up with the
most negative outcome, and end up never trying anything at the end of the day.
If you are truly afraid of something going wrong, ask yourself: “What is the worst
thing that can happen?” and if you can live with that worst case scenario –
maybe you should give it a try.
10.Set no goals. If
we set no goals how do we expect to get anywhere at all? Life has the tendency
to decide for us and take us down routes we never thought we would ever
consider for ourselves - don’t let it dictate it all, reclaim some of the
control back and influence your future. If you have a plan, a good or a bad
one, at least you have one and you can guide yourself to a better tomorrow, want
a better tomorrow at any rate. We often give up and just let events take over,
but reacting all the time is not the same as acting of your own free will. Take
control back, set targets and get a strategy for life because just living the
same Groundhog day over and over again just isn’t living. Life only has a
meaning when you give it one.
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